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Connections That Change Destinies

Preached by:Pr Boris Carvalho
Preached on:February 22, 2026

Monday — Release life: your words become an environment


Bible reading: Proverbs 18:21; Ephesians 4:29

Key phrase: Words of life are not “empty positivity”; they align our speech with what God says and what builds up.


Reflection

The message began with a simple and direct point: wherever you go, release words of life. This seems small, but it is a daily seed. And seeds determine harvests. If you only react with criticism, irony, and complaint, you are planting a heavy environment — and later you will harvest exactly that: defensive people, cold relationships, and a lack of unity.


Speaking “life” is not denying problems; it is choosing to build instead of destroy. And this applies especially inside the home: spouse, children, team, small group. Speech aligned with Christ creates space for healing, courage, and direction.


Practical application (do today)

  • Before speaking today, ask: Does this build up or just vent?
  • Choose 3 people (home/church/work) and give an objective sentence of encouragement and direction (no flattery).
  • Cut 1 pattern: sarcasm, complaining, or a “joke” that humiliates.

  • Prayer

    Lord, guard my mouth. I reject words that wound and choose to release life. Use my words as seeds of healing, unity, and faith. Amen.




    Tuesday — God awaits a response: connection begins with decision


    Bible reading: Revelation 3:20; James 1:22

    Key phrase: God does not force doors. The devil invades; God calls. The difference is that you must respond.


    Reflection

    God calls and waits for a response. Abraham left, Paul obeyed directions, and Peter yielded the boat. The pattern is always the same: promise without response becomes only religious talk.


    If you have been “hearing” for a long time and decide to do nothing, you are choosing to remain still. Neutrality is a choice. Jesus knocks at the door — but you are the one who opens it. Connection with God is not a church service emotion; it is a practical decision that changes schedule, habits, and priorities.


    Practical application (do today)

  • Write 1 area where you know God has already called you to change (no procrastination).
  • Define one concrete action for today (ex.: ask forgiveness; resume devotional time; return to small group; adjust a friendship).
  • Cut the main excuse and replace it with a real time/commitment.

  • Prayer

    Jesus, I open the door. I do not want to be only a hearer. Give me the courage to respond with obedience and consistency. Amen.




    Wednesday — Iron sharpens iron: connections exist to transform you


    Bible reading: Proverbs 27:17; Ecclesiastes 4:9–10

    Key phrase: If no one confronts you and no one adjusts to you, you are not in a relationship — you are in convenience.


    Reflection

    “Iron sharpens iron” is not a pretty quote for a post. It is an uncomfortable principle: real relationships generate friction, sparks, and adjustment. God’s goal is not to make you comfortable; it is to make you like Christ.


    If you isolate yourself to “avoid sin,” you trade growth for self-protection. And if you only walk with those who applaud you, you become a spoiled believer: fragile, easily offended, and unproductive.


    Healthy connections have purpose: they pull you upward, call you to maturity, and make you take responsibility.


    Practical application (do today)

  • Identify 1 mature person (leader/mentor/faith friend) who can “sharpen” you.
  • Schedule a short conversation and ask: “Tell me one thing I need to adjust.”
  • Make one practical adjustment today without justifying, without arguing — simply obey what is right.

  • Prayer

    Father, I do not want connections that massage my ego. Give me humility to be adjusted and maturity to grow. Amen.




    Thursday — Carry and be carried: the paralytic and the four friends


    Bible reading: Mark 2:1–12

    Key phrase: Jesus saw their faith. Sometimes your progress comes through the faith of your relationships.


    Reflection

    The paralytic did not arrive alone. The crowd did not make a way. The ones who changed his destiny were four friends with faith and action. They did the impossible: climbed up, opened the roof, and lowered the man before Jesus.


    This dismantles two lies:

    1.“No one helps me” — sometimes you do not allow yourself to be carried.

    2.“I don’t need anyone” — pride disguised as spirituality.


    There are seasons when you need to be carried. But that must be temporary. God wants you to mature and become someone who carries others into the presence of Jesus.


    Practical application (do today)

  • If you are weak: ask for help today (not indirectly — ask clearly).
  • If you are strong: choose 1 “paralyzed” person and help in a practical way (prayer + action).
  • Honest question: are you taking people to Jesus or only to distractions?

  • Prayer

    Lord, give me friendships of faith and make me someone who carries others to You. Heal my paralysis and use my life to unlock destinies. Amen.




    Friday — Influence: love without losing identity


    Bible reading: 1 Corinthians 15:33; Mark 2:17; Romans 8:1; Revelation 3:15–16

    Key phrase: Jesus drew near to transform — not to become the same. That is spiritual maturity.


    Reflection

    Connections change destinies — for good or for bad. Bad company corrupts good character, and lukewarm neutrality is not a virtue; it is a danger.


    A balance many people get wrong: you were not called to abandon the lost (Jesus came for the sick), but you were also not called to lose your identity trying to “fit in.”


    The final question is intense: am I influencing or being influenced? If you cannot answer, you are probably already being pulled.


    Practical application (do today)

  • Do a “check” of your connections: 3 that draw you closer to God and 3 that drain you.
  • Define one clear boundary for a relationship that is influencing you negatively (times, content, subjects, environments).
  • Choose 1 person to love truthfully: encourage, but also confront with respect.

  • Prayer

    Holy Spirit, give me discernment. I want to love people without losing my identity. Help me to be light, not captive to influences. Amen.